Well, if Drew is up to no good, he sure doesn't act like it.
Got in early this a.m. and he had already emailed me with a little xoxo at the bottom. He doesn't do that too often, sometimes, but not all the time. He calls me at lunch or right after work sometimes when he's really busy at work. We spend most of the weekends together… Blah, blah, blah…
Part of me feels bad about looking/checking the match thing all the time. I think I just need reassurance that there is no funny business going on…
I just don't get it. Maybe I am making big deal about nothing. I have a guy friend who tells me that men do this sometimes and that I shouldn't read too much into it.
I don't know. I do know that I'm frustrated and exhausted by the situation.
I need to focus on something else.
If only I could run, I would run like there is no tomorrow...
2 comments:
I went through the same thing years ago when I dated a guy through the internet. And I had my suspicions as well. This is something that can eat you up inside. Well, I decided I needed to know for sure and created another "me" and the creep took the bait. Imagine his surprise when he finally met me, again.
BUT I am not saying Drew is like this. So here is what I think the both of you need to do. Quit going back to the dating service, even if it's just for fun. By being still on there you are causing problems in your relationship and are waisting other people's time as well. So what, if you guys still have a couple of months membership left? You both seem to be happy with the relationship your are in, so why keep poking around and stir up things. You need to tell him that it bothers you and that at this point in your relationship you expect more than being made not trusting him. That's what his action cause you to do, not trusting him. And who wants to live like that? Maybe ask him why he is really still poking around there? I know some people feel desirable by seeing all those request coming into their mailbox. It can be as simple as being an "ego" thing with someone. Some feel good being wanted, who the heck knows. Bottomline is he either cares enough to quit and have YOU be the only one stroking his ego or he doesn't want to which should make you re-evalute your relationship. Always remember, a good relationship is not build on doubts and mistrust. Don't let anyone make you feel you are only good enough until something better comes along. The way we feel & think about ourselves and the other person should be with positive.
Im not sure you really want "assvice" at this point young lady...
If you don't, I'd ignore this comment :)
He's been fairly upfront about the level of commitment he is willing to make with you, and his action bear this out. He is still looking to some degree...that's a fact...you need to decide if you are willing to accept being with him until he either finds someone else, or is convinced you are the one for him, sorry for putting it bluntly but at our age, I rather not beat around the bush.
Hes an idiot for keeping his toe in the water...
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