Understanding

Last night I went to the Pistons game with Paul and his daughters. Both daughter were sick, stuffy noses and sore throats, and Paul was tired. I tried to be upbeat and peppy, but no one was biting…very tough crowd! Paul's ex and her boyfriend (the one who was supposed to get the boot) were also at the game. The youngest wanted to see her mom, so the girls went and sat with them for a little over a period. The girls going with their mom gave Paul and I a chance to talk. I mentioned that to him that he seemed withdrawn and was able to confirm that Paul was indeed overwhelmed and withdrew…because that's what he does. He also said that he is not used to communicating with someone on a regular basis and acknowledged that he remembered me saying that I liked at least talking on a daily basis. He actually told me that with one of his previous girlfriends he got into a situation similar to this and just stopped talking/responding to her for five days… I responded that he must not have cared that much about her and he nodded in agreement. He then said that it's in the back of his mind how I like to communicate, that he could see a future with us and that he thought we were compatible. I told him that I just want to help him when I can and, like a guy, wants to be able to fix things for him. He laughed and we talked a bit about that. I told him that I can be a bit overbearing (he laughed again) and was aware of his situation and was trying to back off. I also told him that he needs to tell me when he needs his space. He said he thought would be rude. I responded that I would rather have him tell me that he was overwhelmed with things and needed space then not say anything at all because by not saying anything at all my mind would start whirling around and "GIGI". Yes, I actually said Gigi while flailing my arms around and we both laughed. He agreed and we came up with a code word that he could say or text when he was feeling like he needed some time to process things or needed me to back off. It was a good talk. I felt much better about things after we talked…and I think he did, too. Seems we are both just trying to finding a middle ground - in fact, we both said that at some point during the conversation. I'm smiling inside just typing this. On the way home from the game, I could tell he was withdrawing again and mentioned it. He gave me a cute little smirk and said that he had a feeling the morning wasn't going to go well. The three of them were still not feeling well and it was late…so getting up for school was not going to be fun. When we got to his place he gave me a big hug and thanked me for being so understanding. Awww… :) I really like this guy! :)