Surprise Phone Call

Well, Drew called tonight around 9pm.

We had a long talk...

He apologized for sending the breakup note to work email. Never admitted to the match thing. And he said he called because He misses Me! Yeah, my guess is he's sitting around all lonely and who is he gonna call to get to feel sorry for him? Me! Well surprise! no such luck!

He asked what I've been up to and I told him all the stuff I've been doing...work parties, high school friends, going to the gym regularly, pic with Santa w/Richard, possible upcoming sprint triathlons/team triathlons, as well as, going to the Whalers Game, Cheli's and Bailey's last night...oh and the few options I have for New Years Eve...

He was like, boy, glad/sounds like you've been keeping busy. No shit, sherlock...I'm not going to sit around crying over you!

I asked him why he took his match profile off...he said to cut back on expenses. He said before he did that he noticed I had a new pic on my profile. I told him that I thought maybe he met someone and was dating. He said no.

I asked him why he called tonight. He said he was just laying around and started thinking about me... He said he was going to text Merry Christmas, but didn't know how that would go over. Like a lead balloon that's how!

I told him that I thought I would never hear from him again, surprised that he called, that we needed to set up some boundaries and that I would never be able to go back to the way things were between us.

It felt good telling him all that stuff. I asked him a lot of tough questions and brought up a lot of things that I could tell made him uncomfortable. Oh well. I needed to say them and like I said, it felt good. The shoe was on the other foot and I had the leg up on him. Ha!

We talked about a lot more, but that's about it in a nutshell...

Am I nuts for talking to him? I know he's an ass and that he lied to me profusely, but... But I have been missing him as a friend...

Not to worry, not to worry....I'm not going to get sucked into his deceitful web of shit. And there is no way I would ever go back to him. There are far better things on the horizon for me! :)

I think if it was sooner or I hadn't been having as much fun as I have been, I would have felt much differently about Drew's call. But I'm in a relatively good place, so I was able to handle it very well...at least I think so.

I was texting Paul tonight...he's gonna call me tomorrow...we may get together on New Years Eve or at the latest a Piston's game this Friday. Can't wait!!!!

It was just a complete surprise to get the call from Drew...especially the day after my (Fabulous) date with Paul.

Match Date Marathon

Last night I went on a date with guy I've been corresponding with on match.com

He picked me up a little before 5pm and we went ice skating. We skated and talked for about an hour - neither one of us fell! Then we went to a Plymouth Whalers hockey game. We stayed for two periods then went to a local pub for some food and drinks. The first pub was packed, so we walked down the street to another one... We got a table and hung at the pub for a good two hours drinking, chatting, listening to music and watching the Wings lose. After that we started walking back to the car, in the rain, passed the first pub...he suggested one more drink, so we went in grabbed a beer and hung out in the cigar/couch area for another two hours. (good thing no one was smoking too much!) On the way home, he commented that we had been out for almost 10 hours...and it had been just about 9 hours from the time he picked me up...

We had a great time, talking, laughing...

He asked if I would let him take me on a second date...I said sure! :) So we may go out sometime this week or at the latest a Piston's game on the 2nd.

Definitely a possibility! :)

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas...from my house to yours!

Onward!!!!!

I feel so much better about everything. I have a new attitude and can't believe how much better I feel without all of Drew's negative vibes surrounding me. I'm happy and smiling…it's amazing.

In fact, today I just dumped Drew's shit on his work chair. Fair is fair, right? I haven't heard from him, so I put all his stuff in a bag and plopped it on his desk chair. It wasn't much…but I didn't need his stuff around reminding me of him. And he hasn't called, written or texted…and we were such good friends. Ha! Good riddance to the Cowardly Liar! ;D

I have had some great times over the weekend and this week…and I'm sure there are many more to come.

This past Sunday my friend, or rather my pseudo brother and I, went out for drinks and then got our pic taken with Santa. Aren't we cute?



Yesterday night I was out with some friends from high school - Tim, one of the guys I've been emailing was in town, so we set up an impromptu gathering. There was about five or six of us and it was really fun seeing them all. S o much so that I didn't get home until 2 a.m. I was telling Tim about a party tonight and he asked if he could be my date. I said sure! Weather is really bad today, so instead, he'll be coming over and we're just going to hang out catching up some more… Isn't he cute? :)


Things are looking up and I'm moving onward!!! :)

All of the Above

Wow...all week I was okay. I kept busy. I was happy. My spirits were lifted and my heart felt light.

Tonight...left alone with my thoughts and the fact that Drew hid his profile has me...very unsettled.

I'm sad.

I can't stop the tears.

I feel lonely.

I want to know why...why hasn't he called, emailed, texted...why he had to lie and cheat...why he had to be so cowardly...why couldn't he have just told me like it was. If he told me like it was, I would have been fine and we may have been able to be friends....

I miss my friend.

I really miss who I thought was my friend.

It shouldn't be this hard. It's just shouldn't.

And I'm hating myself for all of the above because I really do have to move on...

Moving On...

So Drew was dumped today by his fake online internet girlfriend, Tracy. A half hour later after Tracy said thanks but no thanks, Drew hid his profile on match.

Part of the dumping email said this:

Plus, it seems like you have a lot going on right now. You're just out of a relationship and it appears that you have a few other things going on. Not only that, but I felt that you were really pushing to talk or meet when I said that I wasn't ready.

Drew told Tracy that he was going swimming with a friend, to dinner then to watch her nephew play hockey. Tracy asked if they were more than friends because a guy won't typically do all that stuff unless he's interested in more. Drew never responded to that email.

Tracy's dump letter said this, too:

While match may be a way of meeting people, I've decided that it's just not for me. I was talking with one of my girlfriends about it and she made a comment about it seeming like people were on there ordering something online. You pick something, try it out and if you don't like it, you always have one or two or more backups ready and waiting to chose from. It's not the type of environment that I want to meet people in.

So who knows if it was Tracy's email, the fact that I accidentally looked at his profile when I was logged in the other day, whether he is just taking a break or if he met someone else.

One thing I do know is that Drew never, for a moment had his profile hidden when we were "dating".

I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does...

It makes me sad that he lied to me about his actions.

It makes me sad that I let this go on so very long.

But at least now I can begin the process of healing and moving on...

I just wonder how this will affect my next relationship and the trust factor.

Weight Lifted!

The drama continued today...

Lets sum things up.

12/11 Thursday
Tracy winks at Drew on match

12/12 Friday
11:45 pm I leave Drew's house
12 am-ish he emails Tracy via match and asks for more photos of her

12/13 Saturday
9:50 am Tracy emails Drew and among other things asking for his email and whether or not anyone is pining for his time

2pm ish Drew and I talk for two hours. Drew agrees not to go on match. I tell him I will let him know whether or not I can continue later.

10pm ish I call Drew and tell him that I'm okay with things, especially after our talk. We talk for about a 1/2 hour and make plans for me to go to his his place Sunday evening at 5pm

11 pm Drew emails Tracy and tells her no one is pining for his time that he is aware of and gives her his home email.


12/14 Sunday
9 am ish Tracy emails Drew a couple more pics, compliments him on his looks and tells him that she is glad he is not seeing anyone.

5pm... I cannot go to Drew's knowing what I know. I call a friend and talk for a couple hours...

5:18 pm Drew emails Tracy telling her he likes her pics and tells her he'd like to talk.

12/15 Monday
I get into work... Drew sent me an email from his home email addy to my WORK addy telling me we are done, that he needs a break, and who knows when he will be okay to talk to me again.

He sent the email to me at 10:30ish pm on Sunday....

8:50 am ish Drew sends Tracy an email asking if she knows my sis or me...and for her phone number. Can you say paranoid and not wanting to get caught again? Keep in mind that I told him my sis caught him on match around Turkey Day.

11 am ish Tracy emails Drew asking why he would ask such a thing, but no she doesn't know them. She also says that at this point she's not comfortable giving out phone number. She's looking for serious relationship and is corresponding with a couple men and at this point is still uneasy about the internet thing. ;)

Around noon Drew calls me and leaves a message asking if I am okay and why hasn't he heard from me. He says he is going to text and that if I don't call he is going to come by. Keep in mind, Drew is off of work for the year and I am at work...not at home. He texts me - r u okay? I call him. I was down at the cafe' getting some food, so I missed his initial call. I am livid...his phone rings...he answers. I ask what he wants. He says he wants to make sure I am ok since I didn't call him all weekend. Liar. I called twice Saturday...and why the hell didn't he call last night? I tell him that I got his email and that it said not to call him, that he didn't want to talk to me right now. Silence. I ask why he said he was going to come by...he said he thought I was home. Home? I'm at work. It's Monday. WTF? He says he thought I wasn't working. I think, okay, whatever you lieing sack of shit. I ask why he couldn't have sent the email to my home address where I could read the break up letter in the privacy of my own home. No comment other than I blew him off yesterday evening. My fault...okay... He says he can't talk about this stuff. I say fine, good-bye and hang up.

1 pm ish Drew emails Tracy and confirms, for certain, no one is pining for his time (yeah he confirmed I got the break up letter!), that he still would like to talk and that he hopes they can get to know each other better.

Nice...

Spinless Coward - break up with me via email to my work!!!! What a lame ass!!!! Then when I don't respond, he freaks and calls ME with some bogus bullshit cop-out about being concerned...when I know he just wanted to confirm I got his email...so he could email his fake internet girlfriend!

I was up and down all day today...

But I have to say I am more up than anything. I haven't really cried at all this evening.

Who needs that crap? Not me!

I know I haven't been the most upfront and forthcoming about the way things played out at the end with him. But I had to do what I did to put it straight in my own mind how crooked this guy was/is. I had to find out for myself. I had to know and now I do. If I hadn't had done this...I would have been in the same situation for who knows how much longer.

Tracy will end it with Drew in the next Day or so... He's too boring and old for her. She's fun and young and full of life!

I must say that it's like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. It's still not a good feeling knowing that what I thought was a true friend stabbed me in the back, but I do feel better knowing the truth and am glad that I am able to start moving on with my life.